I was on Instagram when I noticed someone post a text saying, ‘What is your favorite fantasy series.’ Seeing that everyone posted titles like, ‘Lord of the Rings,’ or ‘The Wheel of Time,’ I went ahead and promptly commented, ‘The Mouse On The Motorcycle.’
I later saw a previous post by the same user this time asking, ‘What’s your favorite fantasy genre. Someone replied saying something along the lines of, Science Fiction because Science Fiction really makes one think about the cultures that they don’t know exists and the possibilities of the future. Again, in my excitement and animosity to want to ruin things for other people, I replied to that comment saying, I feel the same way about Robot Erotica.
There’s probably a good reason why no one takes me too seriously. It’s probably because I never take myself too seriously. But, now with 6 books written and a career as a writer staring me straight in the face telling me that this is about the time where I have to connect with people on a much more deeper level, it appears that I should make some tiny adjustments to how I treat other people online. I feel that making this adjustment will not just benefit me, but also benefit many other people who want to have a more prominent presence online. There’s a small number of people trying to add value to other people’s lives and way more people trying to entertain themselves at the expense of other people; maybe it’s not at the full expense of other people, but it would and most likely will result in a few eye rolls.
A few minutes after leaving the comments that I left, I realized that there are those who could actually assist me as a writer and that social media isn’t just a place to get a quick laugh. There are many writers out there that are struggling and there are many writers out there that have a better understanding of the self-publishing environment and have a better grasp at marketing. At some point, I’m going to need to find those people and take their advice. The least that I could offer is some sort of sincerity. The issue, really, is how do we show our sincerity when we want to interact with other people and other creators on a social media platform. There is so much more buzz and noise about the people who create memes and talk other people down with witty retorts online that there isn’t much influence out there about how to treat people in a way that could add value to a conversation. This is what I believe is the practical reason for this issue. More examples and praise of the way that we shouldn’t be versus almost no examples or praise for how we should be.
Like most, including myself, the numbers have come first. I had done things and acted out in ways to bolster up my numbers. This means that any time I like or comment, I’m doing so to be seen, hoping to be acknowledged. I assume and can very well deduce that many people who are trying to garner attention are acting in the same way, motivated by the same laurels. It’s something of a problem.
I had just started interacting on Instagram and, after my failed attempt at forcefully getting followers, I see the use of Instagram and other social media platforms to be an opportunity to practice sincerity. I noticed a lot of authors I want to follow posting about great moments in their life. They’re posting photos of their families, being awarded, and meeting people in conventions. It appears that with these moments, people should see the opportunity to truly and genuinely be happy for people. These are the opportunities to show support, genuine heartfelt support. When one shows their support, they like and comment hoping that there will be others that will notice their public interactions. That shouldn’t be the case. It should be the case that people show their support, even online, in an altruistic way. Even if one does not believe in altruism, showing one’s support with nothing in return should still be the goal.
The further I move deeper into marketing, the less I’m interested in sales, numbers, and gaining impressions. I’m finding this time more conducive to finally being able to connect with others on a much more deeper level.
I had recently read an article by Belinda Pollard on how she uses Instagram and how she doesn’t mind having a small following and doesn’t follow many people. In the article, Pollard talks about how she uses Instagram and what opportunities it offers to her. I recommend giving it a read. It may better shape people’s perspective on how to use Instagram and help them rethink the prospect of using Instagram to achieve fame.
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